Taking another step toward Manhood...

Today is a big day for my oldest son. You may not know why yet, Ethan, but I feel strongly that the time has come for me to share some wisdom with you that may change the way you think for the rest of your life. Presently, you are 9-1/2 years old and while your mother and I have always sought to answer your questions honestly and directly it is a delicate line to walk – we want to prepare you boys in ways that are appropriate to your age/maturity and our Biblical faith.

Your mother and I were raised differently. My mother described the act of sex to my siblings and I at a very early age. I have not been comfortable providing you with too much detail up till now. Your mother was never told anything directly. As your parents, we want you both to have a healthy respect for God’s plan and design of marriage. I do not mean to burden you with thoughts beyond your years…but it is important that you hear the truth from someone who loves you VERY much and wants your lives to honor God in every way. You are far too valuable to us and to the master, I must do my best to prepare you for the realities of life.

Beyond the simple facts of life, I want to give you wise instruction on how to be the best man, husband, and father you can be. Trusting in God is the ONLY path to follow in that regard. His Word gives very clear instructions and I aim to introduce some of those to you tonight as we spend some time together.

I have been reading a book titled, “What Wives Wish their Husbands Knew About Women”. It was written by Dr. James Dobson, a Faithful, Godly man that I highly respect. I want to quote something to you from that book now.

“Why do you suppose the reproductive urge within us is so relevent to cultural survival? It is because the energy which holds a people together is sexual in nature! The pysical attraction between men and women causes them to establish a family and invest themselves in its development. It is the force which encourages them to work and save and toil to insure the survival of their families. This sexual energy provides the impetus for the raising of healthy children and for the transfer of values from one generation to the next. It urges a man to work when he would rather play. It causes a woman to save when she would rather spend. In short, the sexual aspect of our nature – when released exclusively within the family – produces stability and responsibility that would not otherwise occur. And when a nation is composed of millions of devoted, responsible family units, the entire society is stable and responsible and resilient.”

“If sexual energy within the family is the key to a healthy society, then it’s release outside those boundaries is potentially catastrophic. The very force which binds a people together then becomes the agent for its own destruction.”

Tonight we will talk about God’s plan for the partnership between men and women.
I am looking forward to sharing this truth with you.
It is my sincere prayer that God will be there to help me pass on what He has taught me.

I love you very much! It has been my great honor watching you both grow in stature and in wisdom.